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LiG Memories: The Nomad Years (2016–2018)

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 18:19:46 GMT

A Bridge Between Homes

There are chapters in every long‑loved story where the ground shifts a little, not in a frightening way but in that unmistakable “life is changing” way. For LIFE is Good, the years from 2016 to 2018 were exactly that. A stretch of time when we weren’t quite settled, not quite rooted, but still unmistakably ourselves. And while the adults were adjusting to new logistics and new layouts, the kids seemed to take to it immediately. Every new hotel became a fresh world to explore, a place full of elevators, hallways, fountains, and hidden corners that turned the whole weekend into an adventure.

These were our Nomad Years, the years we packed up our traditions, our banners, our fairy godparent magic, and our entire unschooling village and carried it from one temporary home to another.

Looking back, it’s clear these years were a bridge. A bright, colorful, cookie‑scented, atrium‑echoing bridge between our long years in downtown Vancouver and the next place we would eventually land. For eight years, the Red Lion and Hilton held our traditions, our laughter, our late‑night conversations, and the steady rhythm of families returning year after year. Leaving them meant stepping into something unfamiliar, yet we carried all of that history with us as we crossed into this new chapter.

The Nomad Years asked us to stretch a little. They asked us to trust that the heart of LiG was strong enough to travel. And as we moved from Vancouver to Portland to Tigard, from glass elevators to towering atriums, from warm cookies to made‑to‑order breakfasts, we discovered that the community itself was the constant. The place changed, but the feeling did not. The joy did not. The belonging did not.

2016 — The Doubletree Year: A New View, A New Weekend, A New Adventure

The first step onto that bridge came with a date shift no one expected. LIFE is Good 2016 moved from Memorial Day to Labor Day weekend. As much as I think of LiG as a Portland metro event in my mind, this was the only year we were actually located in Portland. In fact, it was our first year back in Oregon after eight years in Vancouver, Washington. Returning to Oregon felt both familiar and new, and the Doubletree welcomed us with warm chocolate chip cookies at check‑in, a small gesture that softened the strangeness of gathering in September instead of May.

The hotel itself became part of the story. The glass elevator was an instant hit, a vertical joyride that turned even the most mundane trips between floors into an event. Kids rode it with the same enthusiasm they brought to the pool, the funshops, and the fountains across the street in Holladay Park.

Thursday night brought something brand new for LiG: our first ever pool party, complete with Trivia by the Pool. Families gathered around the water, laughing, guessing, splashing, and starting the conference with a sense of play. On Sunday night, we were treated to Rhys Thomas and his Jugglemania & Gollyology Show, a blend of circus arts, science, and pure delight that had kids and adults wide‑eyed and giggling. One funshop group even ventured out to the PSU Farmer’s Market, enjoying fresh food, sunshine, and the feeling of exploring Portland together.

And then there was the Snoop Dogg moment. The Doubletree was close to the Moda Center, and during our stay, Snoop Dogg performed there. He was also a guest at our hotel. We knew because the unmistakable scent of weed drifted off a balcony one evening, and the entire LiG community shared a collective, amused “only at LiG” moment.

The weekend unfolded with all the familiar rhythms. Presentations, panels, funshops, cosplay, the Talent Show, Better‑than‑Prom, and the Monday picnic. Even in a new location, surrounded by late‑summer sunshine and the hum of a busy city, the community created the same sense of connection and joy that had defined LiG from the beginning.

2017 — Embassy Suites Tigard: Finding Our Footing Again

In 2017, we returned to Memorial Day weekend and moved into the Embassy Suites in Tigard. The shift changed the feel of the conference in ways both practical and profound. For the first time since 2007, every family had a suite as their guest room. Parents could decompress while kids sprawled out on the sofa bed. Teens could gather in clusters without blocking hallways. Families could eat, rest, and reset with more breathing room than we had in years.

The hotel was built around a large central atrium filled with greenery and light. It was beautiful and also a little nerve‑wracking. Those balconies climbed many stories high, and every parent felt that instinctive tug of vigilance. So we did what unschoolers do best. We made the space our own. Colorful unschooling‑themed banners were hung from the balconies, transforming the atrium into a vertical gallery of joy, philosophy, and creativity.

The shared meals at the Embassy Suites made a surprising difference. The made‑to‑order breakfast each morning and the evening reception each night created a natural gathering place twice a day. Families and teens and kids crossed paths, shared tables, swapped stories, and built friendships in a way that felt effortless. Those meals stitched the community together.

The Monday picnic moved to Beaverton City Fountain Park, a little further away but worth the drive. Families had a chance to cool off in the water features and enjoy a relaxed final gathering before heading home.

The 2017 schedule reflected a community settling into its new temporary home. The Big Six Panel, mental health discussions, SSUDS and SSUMs, tween icebreakers, art and gaming funshops, improv, tech sessions, and of course the Talent Show and Better‑than‑Prom. It felt like LiG again, simply in a different shape.

2018 — Embassy Suites Tigard, Year Two: Growing Into the Space

By 2018, the Embassy Suites felt familiar. Not permanent, not home in the way the Red Lion and Hilton had been, but known and comfortable. The schedule expanded with confidence. We introduced escape room funshops for both younger and older attendees, and they were an instant hit. Kids and teens worked together, solved puzzles, and celebrated their victories with the kind of enthusiasm only unschoolers can bring to a challenge.

There were film challenges, Raspberry Pi setups, mysticism and minerals, writer’s round tables, and a John Hughes Film Festival that felt like a love letter to teenhood itself.

The atrium, once a curiosity, became a gathering place. The balconies, once a worry, became a canvas. The suites, once a novelty, became a welcome standard. And the breakfast line became a daily reunion.

The 2018 program echoed the same themes of connection and continuity that had carried us through the previous two years. Even in a borrowed space, the LiG community kept growing, learning, laughing, and weaving itself together.

A Bridge, Not a Detour

It’s clear that these three years weren’t an interruption in the LIFE is Good story. They were a transition. A bridge between the long, beloved years at the Red Lion and Hilton and the next chapter waiting just beyond the horizon.

We learned something important during the Nomad Years. Home wasn’t the hotel. Home was the people. Home was the way we showed up for each other. Home was the community we carried with us, floor to floor, city to city, year to year.

The Doubletree gave us cookies and glass elevators. The Embassy Suites gave us suites, balconies, omelet lines, and shared meals that brought us together twice a day. But we gave those places meaning.

And soon, after crossing this bridge together, we would find our final home.

Join Us for the Final Chapter

As we look back on where it all began, we are also preparing to close this beautiful circle. I would love for you to join us for the final chapter of the LIFE is Good story at this year’s conference, a celebration of community, connection, and nearly two decades of learning in freedom.

LiG Memories: The Hilton Years (2012–2015)

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 19:20:47 GMT

More Space, Same Beautiful Chaos

How We Ended Up at the Hilton

When we moved from the Red Lion to the Hilton Vancouver Washington, it felt a little like stepping onto a bigger stage, literally. The ceilings were higher, the rooms were larger, and the carpet was… well, very Hilton. After years of making ourselves at home in a cozy riverfront hotel, suddenly we were in a gleaming downtown conference center with nearly 30,000 square feet of event space to play in.

And yet, from the very first year, it was clear:

We hadn’t outgrown ourselves. We had simply grown into a new space.

The move happened thanks to a sales manager who had worked with us at the Red Lion. She knew our people, our energy, our joyful chaos and she insisted the Hilton would love us. I wasn’t so sure. The lobby gleamed. The ceilings soared. The staff wore crisp uniforms and spoke in indoor voices.

But she was right. They welcomed us wholeheartedly.

They didn’t just tolerate our kids running through the lobby in costumes, they smiled. They didn’t flinch at our late night music circles, they learned to expect them. They gave us the run of the entire event space, and we filled it with laughter, learning, and the unmistakable hum of unschooling families finding their people.

A New Home Across from the Park

One of the unexpected gifts of the Hilton was its location. Esther Short Park, playground, gazebo, splash area, and all, sat right across the street. The Farmer’s Market became a weekend ritual. Kids darted between funshops and fountain play. Parents grabbed iced coffees and sunshine between sessions. Teens claimed the park benches like they’d been waiting for them all along.

Downtown Vancouver became part of the conference itself, an extension of our learning spaces, our conversations, and our community.

2012: Finding Our Footing in a Bigger Space

Our first year at the Hilton felt like stepping into a new chapter with a familiar cast. Everything we loved about LIFE is Good was still there, the speakers, the funshops, the joyful reunions, but now it all echoed upward into ceilings so high they seemed to lift the energy of the whole weekend. Families wandered through wide hallways, marveling at how much room there was to breathe, to gather, to play.

The larger space invited us to try new things. We added a film festival, a concert, and a second dance in the afternoon, the Awesome 80’s Dance Party , complete with neon, big hair, and parents rediscovering their best shoulder‑shimmying selves. Circle chats expanded too, with new topics like Introverts Unite! and Unhelpful Inner Dialogue , reflecting the growing diversity of experiences in the room. Even the Meet & Greet for Newbies took on a new shape, becoming more intentional as more families joined us for the first time.

By the end of the weekend, it was clear: the Hilton wasn’t too fancy for us. It was ready for us.

2013: Growing Into Ourselves

By our second year, the Hilton felt like home, and we used every inch of it. We even had an extra room that wasn’t designated for any specific purpose. We called it the Room of Requirement , a little wink to Harry Potter, and it became exactly what we needed it to be as the weekend unfolded, a quiet nook for a last‑minute funshop, a spillover space for teens, a refuge for conversations that needed privacy, or simply a place to breathe. It also became the home of the teens’ Chillout Post‑Prom Afterparty, a tradition that would continue for the rest of our Hilton years.

This was the year LIFE is Good truly stretched its wings. The weekend took on a festival‑like feel with the debut of LIFEapalooza, our first all‑unschooler music festival. Teens claimed their own dedicated world with the launch of Teen Scene , complete with late‑night hangouts and a sense of independence that fit them perfectly. Erika Davis-Pitre introduced SSUMS to LiG , because if the dads had SSUDS, the moms deserved their own secret society and their own late‑night laughter.

New chats popped up too, like Entrepreneurial Unschoolers and Wanderlust: A Life of Travel , reflecting the expanding interests of older teens and young adults. And yes, we kept the party going with an Awesome 80’s (& Slightly 70’s) Dance Party , because why stop a good thing?

2013 was the year we realized just how much LIFE is Good could hold.

2014: Leveling Up Without Losing Our Soul

By 2014, we were fully inhabiting the space. This was the year we introduced Intensives , small, focused sessions for people ready to dig deeper into the philosophy and emotional work of unschooling. They added a new layer of depth to the weekend, offering a quieter, more reflective counterbalance to the joyful bustle happening everywhere else.

Panels expanded too, with the Unschooling Siblings Panel and a more formalized Big Six Panel giving families a chance to explore the trickier parts of unschooling with honesty and humor. Outside, the park across the street became a natural extension of the conference, hosting everything from picnics to Real Life Quidditch , which made its first appearance this year and quickly became a favorite.

And at the post‑conference picnic, James Coburn made his famous nitrogen ice cream , drawing a crowd of delighted kids and curious adults as clouds of cold vapor drifted across the grass.

2014 felt like a year of maturity, not in a serious way, but in a grounded, confident way. We were growing, and it felt good.

2015: A Community in Full Bloom

By 2015, LIFE is Good at the Hilton had become a fully developed ecosystem. The toddler room buzzed with tiny explorers, while teens had their own thriving universe shaped by late‑night conversations, inside jokes, and the kind of friendships that last for years. The park across the street continued to be an extension of the conference — a place where kids blew enormous bubbles, where parents found a moment of sunlit rest, and where connections deepened on the grass between sessions.

This was also the year the next generation stepped forward. Talks like Second‑Generation Unschooling , Unlearning Toxicity and Learning Compassion , and My Life in Games reflected the growing presence of grown unschoolers returning as speakers, sharing their lived experience with a new wave of families. Panels like Unschooling with Little Ones and Transitions: How Do I Adult? made space for both ends of the parenting journey, acknowledging the full arc of unschooling life.

2015 felt like the Hilton years at their fullest expression, expansive, multigenerational, and rooted in everything that made LIFE is Good what it had always been: a community learning in freedom, together.

Holding Each Other Through Loss

The Hilton years weren’t only about expansion and celebration. They were also years when our community held each other through profound loss. During our time at the Hilton, we said goodbye to two beloved members of the LIFE is Good family, people whose presence had shaped our conference in ways both seen and unseen.

Their absence was felt in the hallways, in the quiet corners, in the laughter that caught just a little in our throats. And yet, as families do, we gathered close. We told stories. We cried. We hugged. We remembered. We carried their names gently, and we carried each other.

Those first losses taught us how to show up for one another in sorrow as fully as we did in celebration, a practice that continued, tenderly and imperfectly, as the years unfolded.

What we didn’t know then was that these would be the first of several losses our community would face in the years to come. As LIFE is Good continued, we would say goodbye to more friends, each one leaving a mark, each one woven into the fabric of our shared history. And every time, the community rose to meet the moment with tenderness, presence, and an unspoken understanding that grief is part of loving deeply.

Their memory remains part of LIFE is Good, in the friendships they nurtured, the ideas they sparked, the kindness they offered, and the way they helped shape the community we are still becoming.

What the Hilton Years Meant

The Hilton years were a moment of expansion for LIFE is Good, a time when we discovered that we could grow bigger without losing the warmth and connection that defined us. We filled larger rooms, added new offerings, welcomed more families, and still managed to keep that familiar sense of “home” at the heart of everything.

They were also the years when we first learned how to hold each other through loss. As our community deepened, so did the ways we showed up for one another, in celebration, in sorrow, and in all the ordinary moments in between. That capacity became part of who we were and who we would continue to be.

In those four years, we found out that growth doesn’t have to change our essence. It can strengthen it. The Hilton gave us room to stretch, to evolve, and to carry forward a community rooted in joy, connection, and the simple, powerful act of being there for one another.

But of course, all good things have their season, and so did our time at the Hilton. When it was time to move on, we did so with full hearts, carrying everything we had built there into the next chapter. More change was coming, but we had learned how to meet change together.

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LiG Memories: The Red Lion Years (2008–2011)

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 18:00:52 GMT

The years we grew up together at the Quay

When I think back on our time at the Red Lion Hotel at the Quay in Vancouver, Washington, it feels like remembering a beloved old home. The pirate‑themed restaurant, the cozy hallways, the outdoor pool full of sun‑soaked kids, the lobby that instantly became a village square the moment families arrived — all of it shaped the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference in ways I still feel today. These four years were a complete arc for us, full of growth, identity, joy, chaos, and community.

2008: The year everything got bigger

2008 was only our second year, but it felt enormous. I remember standing in the main room, looking out at all those joyful families, and feeling both thrilled and a little overwhelmed. The outdoor pool was a huge draw. Some kids practically lived out there, drifting between the water and the lounge chairs like it was their own sun‑soaked kingdom. For many of them, the pool was the conference, and honestly, I loved that.

Inside, parents were deep in the early unschooling questions — late reading, letting go, trusting the process. Circle Chats were raw and honest as we all figured out how to talk about unschooling together.

And then there was Balloon Sword Madness. I thought it would be a fun, silly activity. I did not anticipate the sheer number of kids who would show up or the level of enthusiasm they would bring. Within minutes the room was a blur of balloon swords, laughter, and mild chaos. It was hilarious and unforgettable, and also the moment I realized balloon weaponry might not be the best idea for a conference of this size.

2009: The year we found our voice… and set off a few fire alarms

If 2008 was about expansion, 2009 was about identity. This was the year LIFE is Good stepped fully into its personality — confident, playful, emotionally honest, and deeply supportive.

We created the LIFE is Good Flags that year. Families decorated fabric squares that we stitched together into long, colorful banners. They’ve hung in the main room every year since, and they still make my heart swell.

We added Thursday movie night, which instantly felt right. The morning run and walk tradition began too. And for the first time, we had a teen unschooler as a main presenter. Kevin Snavely shared his experience of entering school as a freshman after a lifetime of unschooling, and parents soaked up every word.

Speaking of teens, they came alive this year. Cosplay, DS meetups, World of Warcraft in the Poolside Room, a lively Teen Panel, the energy was vibrant and unmistakably youthful.

But oh, the fire alarms.

Not one. Not two. Not three. Four in total. The first was unsettling. The second was annoying. The third had everyone rattled. And the fourth — caused by shower steam — pushed us straight into that laugh‑or‑cry territory. The earlier alarms were not accidental, and we had a serious talk about respecting our shared space. But even in frustration, the community handled it with grace.

By the time Amy Steinberg took the stage for her concert, I was ready for some down time.

2010: The year of makeovers, music, and deepening roots

2010 felt bigger and deeper, but in a calmer way. We had found our rhythm as a community, and the energy reflected that.

Mommy and daddy makeovers were a highlight, with parents proudly wearing kid‑applied makeup. The Greybeards formed this year, complete with the Hot Backup Chicks. Broc Higgins and Ben Lovejoy appeared as the Blues Brothers at the Talent Show.

And then came one of my favorite musical moments in all our years at the Red Lion. Amy Steinberg was joined by Kimya Dawson — yes, that Kimya Dawson, the one who wrote the soundtrack for the Academy Award–winning movie Juno. Her music was wildly popular, and when she invited people onstage to sing songs like “Loose Lips” and “Anyone Else but You”, the whole room lit up. It was pure magic.

We also had grown unschooler Zephyr Goza joining us all the way from Massachusetts that year. His Jack Sparrow impersonation was so spot‑on that it felt like the pirate‑themed restaurant had come to life. He led the kids on a treasure hunt through the hotel, searching for pirate booty with full Jack Sparrow swagger. The kids were absolutely enchanted.

The presentations reflected a community ready for deeper work. We talked about shame healing, math fears, long‑term unschooling outcomes, relationship building, and the experiences of grown unschoolers. It was a year of growth, music, laughter, and resilience.

2011: Full bloom at the Quay

2011 was our biggest Red Lion year and the one that felt the most fully realized. It was joyful, creative, and overflowing with energy — and also the year I experienced one of the deepest losses of my life.

Patti Digh, author of Creative is a Verb, joined us as a main presenter and brought humor, insight, and creative spark. Better‑Than‑Prom replaced the Barefoot Boogie and instantly became a favorite. ATCs appeared for the first time, led by Erika Davis‑Pitre in her debut year as a LiG presenter. Crafts seemed to spill into every corner of the hotel. The Dads’ Panel continued after its debut in 2010.

And then, on the last night of the conference, I learned that my mother had died unexpectedly. Shock and grief washed over me. What happened next is something I will never forget.

One by one, nearly every attendee stopped by my room to offer condolences. A gathering formed. People brought instruments. We sang whatever songs came to mind. Loudly. Others brought snacks and drinks. What began as a wake slowly transformed into something else — joyful, loud, full of music and stories and laughter. It lasted until the wee hours, a kind of party disguised as a wake, held together by love and community. That night gave me the strength I needed to face what came next. It remains one of the most powerful examples of what this community is capable of.

What the Red Lion Years meant to us

When I look back on our time at the Red Lion, what stands out most is how much we grew together. Those years gave us the flags, the concerts, the teen energy, the Greybeards, Better‑Than‑Prom, the fire alarm stories, the makeovers, the Jack Sparrow sightings, the poolside friendships, and the sense of belonging that still defines LIFE is Good. They were years of joy and chaos and creativity, but also years when we learned how to hold one another through the hardest moments.

The Red Lion was never just a hotel. It was home for a little while, and in all the ways that matter.

And even though it felt like we could have stayed there forever, change was already on the horizon.

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Thirteen Frequently Asked Questions About Unschooling

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 21:41:13 GMT

A Parent’s Perspective on Unschooling in Real Life

When we first started unschooling, I would get on the (now defunct) unschooling.com message boards and ask questions. Lots of them. These quickly became “Dragonfly’s Question of the Day,” and the women and men who answered me showed considerable patience and creativity in their replies. Nowadays, I answer a fair number of newbie questions myself. I mostly enjoy it, and I am mostly patient in my replies. Creative? Not so much. There are only so many ways to answer the same questions.

That being the case, here are some FAQs and my answers to them.

1. How will my kids learn anything if I don’t teach them?

They will learn the way adults learn. Something will catch their interest, they will explore it until they are satisfied (for now), and then they’ll move on. Later, they’ll learn something else that reminds them of that thing they learned before, and they’ll make a connection. “Oh, hey, that’s like...” True knowledge is made up of those connections, and that’s what unschoolers value.

2. I’m ready to try unschooling, but my spouse/partner isn’t convinced. What do I do?

Remember that your partner’s concerns stem from the same place that your interest in unschooling does: wanting the best for your kids. Approach your partner with that common goal in mind and ask to be given some time to explore this intriguing way of homeschooling.

Share some resources. Encourage participation. Ask for a moratorium on criticism of how the kids’ time is spent.

As an aside, I’m not entirely sure why Frank went along with it. It was a big leap for such an academically minded guy. Maybe it was faith in me, maybe it was faith in our kids, maybe it was a simple desire to be agreeable and get me to be quiet. Whatever. He signed off on

the experiment, and no more than three months later found himself in the role of stay-at-home unschooling dad. And here we are...

3. How do we start?

Relax. Take your summer vacation now (even if it’s the dead of winter). Say “Yes” a lot. Have fun. Play with your kids. Watch. Wait. Stay calm. Get support from other unschooling parents. Strew.

Strewing involves making a wonderful variety of resources available to your kids with no expectation or requirement that the resources ever be used. The things you strew can be in support of interests your child has expressed or about just any old thing you think of. Strewed items can be books, toys, or supplies, left casually on tables or in bathrooms, presented quietly to your child, or presented with great fanfare and excitement. They can be posters hung on walls, craft or music or gaming activities that you start, Web pages left open on the computer, magazines subscribed to, alternate driving routes taken, and so on. It is SO fun to do, and it creates an environment of discovery and fun in your house. Strewing can happen in and around all your usual activities, even during busy times (it doesn’t require a big investment of time). But never doubt that your usual activities can provide a lot of strewing, too. For example, getting ready for a family vacation can strew

lots of history and geography and other interesting tidbits. The vacation itself? Even more so.

4. What is deschooling?

Deschooling is the process of shaking off the routines and expectations of school. It’s time for rediscovering the joy of learning. It’s a period of healing. I replied once to a concerned mom whose son was deschooling by playing a lot of video games: “Your son needs to play those games. He needs it the same as he needs food to eat and air to breathe. Try thinking of the time he spends on those games as chemotherapy. If he had cancer, you wouldn’t begrudge him his treatments, right? Well, the schooling has been eating away at his joy, sense of self, curiosity and creativity, much like a tumor eats other cells.”

For kids, the cure for this “brain cancer” is simply time spent doing just whatever they want. Ideally, they have the unflinching support of their parents during this time. How much time? The usual rule of thumb for kids is one month of deschooling for every year spent in school.

Staying calm and quiet during that time is not easy! But it is very much worth it. For parents, deschooling can take much longer. Or it comes in waves. We’ve been unschooling for more than six years, and Frank and I still have to monitor our thoughts, speech, reactions, and expectations. We still explore unschooling concepts regularly and talk about them with other unschooling parents. For us, living this life requires regular refresher courses. So to speak.

5. What do I tell the school district?

That you’re homeschooling. You are! Recordkeeping requirements vary from state to state. One of the most rigorous is probably New York, with its IHPs and portfolios and I don’t know what all. And yet many unschoolers thrive in New York, without telling a single lie. Start keeping a journal of your kids’ daily activities. At intervals, translate what they’ve been doing into school-speak. You’ll be surprised at how many age-specific learning objectives they touch on, naturally. Others, they’ll touch on at different ages (oftentimes much earlier than the schools would introduce them), but they’ll still get them. They don’t call ‘em “the basics” for nothing. And a perusal of World Book’s Typical Course of Study will show you exactly how basic the basics are.

6. That’s fine for elementary school, but what about high school?

First off, question your assumptions. High school does not look the same for every student,and the high school years will not look the same for every unschooler. Some end up taking some courses. Some get intrigued by a subject and read college-level textbooks. Some learn skills on their own by following interests that lead them into jobs that become careers. Some create an all new path to a life that our schooled brains have trouble even imagining. And some do a combination of these. A big part of an unschooling parent’s job is finding ways for our kids to learn what they want to learn. Get creative!

7. Can unschoolers get into college?

Yes! To a college, an unschooler is a homeschooler. Homeschooler entrance requirements will vary from college to college, so the better question here is, How can a particular unschooler get into The School that will help her achieve her dreams? You can’t plan for every college in the world. Pick the few that your kid is most interested in, learn their requirements, and then go from there. And keep in mind that there’s no law that says the applicant has to be able to meet their requirements by age 18 or any other magic-number age.

Cafi Cohen has written a good bit on the subject of homeschoolers getting into college.

8. What about socialization?

Unschoolers find this question is laughable. Our kids are out in the world, socializing with real people doing real things. My kids have hundreds of friends of all ages, and their friendships tend to be far more intimate and joyful than anything I experienced in school.

9. Will my child fall flat, or fall short, if I don’t push/encourage/expect?

Unschooling parents encourage our kids all the time, so I wouldn’t group that with push and expect. But consider this: Will your child fall flat if you do? It’s possible. You can do damage with pushing and expectations. And traditional schooling and parenting certainly offer no

guarantees for success.

10. How will my kids learn self-discipline?

What do you mean by self-discipline? Do you mean the ability to stick with a plan? Do you mean the ability to do something unpleasant that just has to get done? Do you mean taking care of hygiene every day? Do you mean housework? All of those?

Ask yourself this: How does schooling really contribute to any of that? Is schooling what made you into a responsible adult, or was it real life or natural inclination that did that? Both of my children have completed major projects. Both have faced frustrations and disappointments and persevered anyway. Both shower regularly and are “presentable” most of the time. Both have messy bedrooms that they have, at one time or another, voluntarily cleaned. Both have helped us get ready for houseguests. They sound like regular kids, don’t they?

11. I’m okay with unschooling for academics, but the radical unschooling lifestyle seems like too much!

How do I relax about _______? (food choices, hygiene, appearance, chores, manners, time spent indoors/outdoors, time spent on TV/computers/video games, reading, etc. etc. etc.)

For me, most anything that goes in that blank boils down to societal expectations (“the shoulds”). Sure, some of them can be couched in terms of the child’s health and welfare or future happiness. But what I found when I examined them closely, and actually tried the unschooling way, was that there wasn’t any evidence that the societal way led to any better outcome than the unschooling way.

My biggest weapons for stripping away societal expectations and getting down to what was right for our family are “Why?” and “Why not?” Anytime the reason behind a “should” boils down to any form of “what will people think,” I throw it out. That reasoning is simply not valid

in our lives. And anytime the reason boils down to my preferences or beliefs or assumptions, I throw that out, too.

12. I’ve heard unschooling described as “unparenting.” Do you neglect your kids?

You know, this is probably in the eye of the beholder. I don’t force my kids to brush their teeth, so one might say I neglect their dental hygiene. I never force my kids to eat their vegetables, so one might say I neglect their nutrition. But my children's choices are never

limited by a lack of supplies, options, or information. I never neglect their intellects.

Sure, I could run around screaming, “Respect my authoritah!” Okay, I admit it, that happens from time to time. The result is general hilarity and, yes, the respect I deserve. And I could do more than that. I could punish, withhold privileges, nag, threaten, shame, tease, and generally make a nuisance of myself. But what would it get me? Kids with cleaner teeth? Maybe, maybe not. Kids with healthier bodies? Maybe, maybe not.

What I know it would get me—because I have lived it—is battles. A home full of battles. No thanks.

13. What if we decide to unschool and it ruins our kids’ lives?

What if you leave them in school and that ruins their lives? How is that path any safer than the unschooling path, when taking a quick spin on Google will show just how fraught with peril is school?

I took an early step toward embracing unschooling when someone on the old unschooling.com boards asked if I was sure school would prevent any of the things I was fearful of. The answer, of course, was no. There are many people who force their kids to Do Everything Right who end up with angry and rebellious kids, kids who drop out of high school, unhappy-but-successful kids, or some combination of these.

There are no guarantees. All you can do is choose how you will respond to the reality of life today. This moment. All you can do is choose the kind of parent you want to be today, the kind of life you want your kids to have today, and the kind of relationship you want with them today.

Everything else follows from that.

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Ronnie Maier is the mom of two fabulous adult unschoolers. She is currently adventuring in AZ with Frank, her partner of 35 yrs, and their grumpy cat. This piece was originally published in the 2009 LIFE is Good Handbook and is shared here with gratitude for her enduring voice in the unschooling community.

Join Us for the Final Chapter

As we look back on where it all began, we are also preparing to close this beautiful circle. I would love for you to join us for the final chap ter of the LIFE is Good story at this year’s conference, a celebration of community, connection, and nearly two decades of learning in freedom.

LIFE is Good 2008: The Year We Grew Up

Sun, 08 Feb 2026 19:27:42 GMT

A Gentle Shift Into Something Bigger

In 2007, we gathered in Corvallis, Oregon for the very first LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference. It was small, heartfelt, and full of possibility. Families came together to share stories, play, and explore what unschooling could look like in real life. We had a pajama party, a teen panel, a few presentations, and a delightfully spontaneous game of Duck Duck Goose. It felt like a big family sleepover with a few scheduled events tucked in.

Then, in 2008, we grew up.

We moved the conference to Vancouver, Washington, settling into the Red Lion on the Quay. The hotel sat right on the Columbia River, with big windows and a pirate‑themed restaurant that was charmingly tacky and endlessly entertaining for kids. The whole place felt playful and expansive, ready to hold the energy we were bringing.

The move wasn’t just about needing more rooms. It was about recognizing that the conference had outgrown its small‑town roots. We needed a location that was easier for more families to reach, with enough space for hallway conversations, spontaneous gatherings, and parallel sessions. The Red Lion offered all of that, and it came with a view.

We also expanded the schedule. In 2007, the conference ran Friday through Sunday. In 2008, we added Thursday and wrapped up with a picnic in the park on Monday. That extra time gave families room to settle in, breathe, and connect more deeply.

Who Showed Up in 2008

One of the clearest signs of growth came from the people who arrived.

In 2007, most families were from Oregon, Washington, and Northern California. In 2008, the reach widened dramatically. Families traveled from Georgia, Michigan, Florida, Hawaii, Illinois, Arizona, New Mexico, Nevada, and even the United Kingdom and Costa Rica. We also welcomed a huge wave of families from British Columbia and Alberta.

It was the first time I realized that LiG wasn’t just a regional gathering anymore. People were willing to travel long distances to be part of this community. So much for me naming it the LIFE is Good NW Unschooling Conference.

We also saw more large families, more teens and older kids, more multi‑generational groups, a noticeable increase in sparkly and neurodivergent kids, and a surge of local families from Vancouver and the Portland metro area. The move clearly made the conference more accessible, and the expanded programming made it more appealing.

Programming That Reflected Our Evolution

In 2007, the schedule was simple and sweet: a few core presentations, a pajama party, a teen panel, a handful of funshops, and a closing dance. In 2008, everything deepened.

Presentations

In 2008, the presentations expanded in both scope and depth. We added sessions on late readers, self‑motivation, peaceful partnerships, stress relief for fathers, and the inner work of unschooling, but it wasn’t just the topics that made them meaningful. These talks were grounded in real stories, lived experience, and the messy, beautiful process of learning to trust our kids and ourselves. Parents explored everything from math anxiety to navigating teens at loose ends, from reframing “needs” to shifting long‑held perspectives. The rooms were full, the conversations were honest, and people walked out feeling seen, supported, and changed in ways that stayed with them long after the weekend ended. These weren’t just informative. They were connective, clarifying, and often transformative.

Circle Chats

In 2008, circle chats became a central feature of the conference. With more space available, we were finally able to dedicate an entire room just for these conversations. No more rearranging chairs in the main presentation room or trying to talk while people mingled and drifted through the back. This time, the door could close, giving parents the privacy and freedom to share openly. Inside that room, people gathered to talk about spirituality, birth, community conflict, chronic pain, sparkly kids, doubts, and teens at loose ends. These chats were often where the real magic happened.

Funshops

Funshops multiplied. In 2007, they were a delightful bonus. In 2008, they became a defining part of the conference, inclusive, hands‑on, and designed to delight and engage people of all ages. With more rooms available, families offered an incredible range of hands‑on experiences: Artist Trading Cards, Altered Clothing, Pipe Cleaner Creations, American Sign Language, Body Art and Face Painting, A nimal Origami, Nintendo DS meetups, Dungeons & Dragons , and even Halo 2 Tips and Superjumps happening in a suite. Kids skateboarded in the parking lot, traded ATCs, painted, crafted, gamed, and invented their own fun. The variety reflected exactly what unschooling looks like in real life — people sharing what they love, and others joining in because it sparks something inside them.

New 2008 Highlights and Traditions

The Sunday Night Concert

2008 was also the first year we hosted a Sunday night concert, and the fabulous Amy Steinberg was our very first performer. She filled the room with her warmth, humor, and soul. Her song Exactly was already an unschooling favorite, and hearing it live, surrounded by people who sang along with every word, felt like a collective exhale.

The Games Room

With more rooms available, we introduced a dedicated Games Room stocked with toys, board games, card games, and the wildly popular Dance Dance Revolution (DDR) setup. Kids and teens spent hours in there, dancing, laughing, and forming friendships that lasted long after the weekend ended.

The Computer Gaming Room

We also added a computer gaming room, and games like World of Warcraft and The Sims were definitely popular. Kids who might not have connected through crafts or chats found their people here.

The Fairy Godparent Game

The Fairy Godparent Game made its debut in 2008 and has continued ever since. It added a layer of sweetness and mystery to the weekend. Participants secretly did kind things for their assigned Fairy Godchild — leaving notes, small gifts, handmade signs, or little surprises in their mailbox. Some revealed themselves at the end of the weekend. Others stayed anonymous forever.

It brought a little magic into the hallways, and you could feel it .

The Vendor Hallway and the UN-Fair

This was one of the biggest and most joyful changes in 2008.

We had real vendors that year, local businesses, unschooling‑friendly shops, and community makers. The hallway outside the main conference room buzzed with activity.

But the real magic came from the kids.

2008 was the year the UNtrepreneurial Fair was born.

Kids brought handmade jewelry, art, duct tape creations, knitted items, painted rocks, origami, and all sorts of imaginative treasures. They were so enthusiastic and proud that the tables quickly filled up. Then the hallway filled up. Then the whole thing spilled into the hotel lobby.

It was joyful chaos.
It was community in motion.
It was unschooling at its best.

The Year I Learned I Needed a Team

In 2007, I tried to do everything myself. Thankfully, a few very observant and incredibly helpful people stepped up to help keep things moving along, but there was definitely no plan in place beforehand.

By 2008, I knew we needed a real volunteer team. And the community showed up. Families offered to help — some for one shift, some for several. Teens volunteered. Parents volunteered. People from all over the country volunteered.

The conference had grown too much to keep relying on last‑minute help and crossed fingers. We needed people at the registration table, help with the silent auction and raffle, and folks who could guide families and keep the flow going.

This was the year I learned that running a conference takes a village, and thankfully, we had one.

Looking Back

2008 wasn’t flashy. It wasn’t slick or buttoned down. It was organic and free‑flowing, the kind of weekend that felt more like a family reunion than a conference.

And the joy, it was anything but quiet. It was loud, celebratory, and wonderfully unruly. The whole weekend felt like a family reunion, the kind where people squeal when they see each other, hug too tightly, and forget that hotel walls are thin. More than once, we had to remind each other to keep it down, which only made us laugh harder.

That joy came from connection. From recognition. From the feeling of being surrounded by people who understood your choices, your kids, your values, and your heart.

We didn’t just grow in size. We grew in depth, in confidence, in joy, and in connection.

And we laid the foundation for everything that came after.

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LIFE is Good 2007: How a One Time Gathering Became a Beloved Unschooling Tradition

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 19:59:16 GMT

Carrying Forward the Spirit of What Came Before

When the long‑running Live & Learn Unschooling Conference prepared to come to an end, many families felt the loss deeply. For years, Conference Coordinator Kelly Lovejoy had created a space where unschoolers could gather, learn, play, and reconnect with their community. Those conferences shaped countless families, mine included, and when Kelly decided to stop hosting them, I felt a tug I could not ignore.

I did not set out to start something big.
I simply wanted to bring an unschooling conference to the west coast and keep the spirit of Live & Learn alive for one more year.

In 2007, I organized what I believed would be a one‑off, three‑day unschooling conference in a small hotel in Corvallis, Oregon. The goal was simple: offer a warm, welcoming place for unschooling families to gather, share ideas, and celebrate learning in freedom. I had no plans to turn it into an annual event. I just wanted to honor the tradition Kelly had nurtured for so long.

But something magical happened.

A Small Conference With a Big Heart

From the moment families arrived, the energy was unmistakable. We had planned for 175 people, imagining a cozy, intimate gathering. Instead, 325 unschoolers showed up. We filled the entire main conference hotel and then spilled into overflow rooms in two nearby hotels. It was the first sign that something bigger was happening. Our community was hungry for connection, continuity, and a place to land together.

Even in its very first year, LIFE is Good carried the seeds of traditions that would become beloved parts of the conference for years to come:

A cozy Pajama Party to kick things off
The always popular Teen Panel
A lively Talent Show that filled the room with cheers
A late‑night Midnight Movie
The joyful, barefoot dancing freedom of the Sunday Boogie
A welcoming Newbie Circle Chat for families just beginning their unschooling journey
Creative Funshops spilling into hallways, parking lots, and every corner of the hotel

There was skateboarding in the parking lot, altered clothing and bead animals in the funshop rooms, and the early days of SSUDS, the Secret Society of Unschooling Dads, meeting in a guestroom suite with the same grassroots warmth that defined the early unschooling conference world.

Because the conference was small, or at least supposed to be small, people connected quickly. Kids found their people within minutes. Parents lingered in hallways long after sessions ended. Conversations spilled into elevators, breakfast nooks, and the hotel courtyard. It felt like a community rediscovering itself in real time.

It was small. It was simple. It was heartfelt.
And it was exactly what our community needed.

The Moment Everything Changed

By the end of the weekend, it was clear that this was not just a one‑time gathering. The joy, connection, and sense of belonging were too powerful to walk away from. Families asked if we would do it again. Kids begged to come back the next year. The energy was unmistakable. LIFE is Good needed to continue.

I remember standing in the lobby on that final afternoon, watching families hug goodbye, exchange emails, and make plans to meet again. There was a feeling in the air, a mix of gratitude and hope, that told me this was not the end of something. It was the beginning.

What began as a tribute to Live & Learn became the start of a new tradition. Over time, LiG would grow into a four‑day event, expand into larger venues, and welcome hundreds of families each year.

Honoring the Past, Growing Into the Future

LIFE is Good was born from gratitude. Gratitude for Kelly Lovejoy’s years of work, for the Live & Learn community, and for the families who showed up ready to learn and play together. That foundation shaped everything that came after.

LiG 2007 was not just the first year.
It was the spark that lit nearly two decades of connection, celebration, and unschooling joy.

Looking back now, it is easy to see how those early moments, the pajama party laughter, the hallway conversations, the tiny funshops overflowing with creativity, became the heartbeat of a conference that would grow far beyond anything I imagined.

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One Last Hurrah: A Farewell and an Invitation

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 21:12:32 GMT

Dear LIFE is Good friends,

After nearly two decades of magic, connection, and laughter, I’m writing to share some bittersweet news: I’ll be retiring as of June 2026, and the upcoming LIFE is Good Conference will be our final gathering.

Hosting this event year after year has been one of the great joys of my life. I’ve met extraordinary people, watched friendships bloom, and witnessed the beautiful energy that comes from being surrounded by people who care deeply about each other and about living life with intention. It’s been my honor to help build a space where unschooling families could connect, celebrate, and feel truly seen.

I’m so thankful to each of you for the love and creativity you’ve brought—whether you joined us once or every year, whether you came as a speaker, a vendor, a volunteer, or just to soak it all in. This community is what made LIFE is Good special, and I will carry that with me always.

Let’s make our last hurrah one for the books. LIFE is Good 2026 will be held in Vancouver, WA from Thursday, May 21st through Sunday, May 24th. I hope you’ll join me to celebrate the legacy we’ve built together.

With love and gratitude,
Mary ��

Enjoying Your LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference Experience

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 20:39:58 GMT

Attending the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference is a joyful and inspiring experience. It's a hub of energy and excitement that brings unschooling families together for learning, connection, and fun. However, such dynamic environments can be overwhelming, especially for sensitive souls—parents and kids alike. To ensure you and your family fully enjoy the event, here are a few veteran tips designed to help you thrive:

1. Pace Yourself—Say Goodbye to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out!)

With a packed schedule of enriching presentations, discussions, and other activities, it’s tempting to try to do it all. But four or more days of high energy can be exhausting, even in the best way! Instead, select a few key events and allow for some breathing room.

2. Take Time to Recharge

Whether it’s relaxing in your room, taking a quiet walk, watching TV, or snacking, downtime is essential. Let those restorative moments help you and your kids reset and prepare for the next adventure.

3. Prepare Your Kids for What to Expect

Older kids may be excited but also need preparation for the busy atmosphere. Little ones, in particular, will often need you nearby to navigate new people and situations. Don’t worry if you miss some sessions—there is always someone to talk to who can help you catch up later.

4. Navigate Raffle and Auction Excitement with Care

Raffle and silent auction items help raise scholarship funds, offering opportunities to win unique goodies. Discuss with your kids the concept of “one winner” beforehand to manage expectations, or plan ways to handle any potential disappointment. Want to surprise them? Consider bidding on their behalf.

5. Prioritize Your Family’s Needs

Every family is unique. Focus on meeting your kids’ needs, whether that involves spending time at a session or simply enjoying a quiet corner together.

6. Bring Comforts from Home

Pack favorite snacks, toys, games, and clothing to create a sense of familiarity in this new environment. Feeling at home makes all the difference.

7. Reach Out for Support

If challenges arise, remember that you’re surrounded by a community of understanding and supportive attendees. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if needed.

A Community Built Around You

At the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference, you’ll find a welcoming atmosphere that encourages connection and individuality. Whether you’re seeking quiet solitude or lively interaction, this event is tailored to be whatever you need it to be. Trust us—your experience will be meaningful and potentially life-changing.

Ready to Join the Adventure?

Check out all the conference details and start preparing for an unforgettable journey!

With these tips in mind, you’re ready to embrace the joy, connection, and inspiration of the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference. Make this event your own, and let the magic unfold!

Unschooling vs Homeschooling: What’s the Difference?

Sat, 22 Mar 2025 22:41:48 GMT

If you're exploring alternative education options for your kids, you’ve probably heard the terms homeschooling and unschooling. At first glance, they might seem pretty similar, but they actually have some key differences. Let’s break it down and dive into what each approach looks like, especially unschooling, and why it could be the perfect choice for your family.

What is Homeschooling?

Homeschooling is exactly what it sounds like—educating your kids at home instead of sending them to a traditional school. In homeschooling, you as the parent are in charge of their education, but it usually involves following a structured curriculum of some sort. You might use textbooks, online resources, or even attend co-op classes with other homeschool families to make sure all the "subjects" are covered.

Even though homeschooling is more flexible than traditional school, it still has a pretty structured approach. Kids typically follow a set schedule with specific subjects like math, science, and history, much like they would in school. Parents can make learning more fun by adding in hands-on activities, field trips, or extra projects, but the basic structure tends to resemble traditional schooling more closely.

What Is Unschooling?

Unschooling is personalized approach to learning. It is a unique and unconventional method of education that moves away from the traditional school system entirely. It's based on the understanding that humans are naturally curious and hard-wired to learn without external enforcement. Unschoolers embrace a learner-driven approach that prioritizes curiosity over a rigid curriculum.

How Does Unschooling Work?

Unschooling intertwines learning with daily life, making it a seamless and organic process. Instead of separating "school hours" from living, unschoolers explore their interests and questions whenever curiosity strikes. We as parents play a supportive role, providing resources and guidance as our kids dive deeply into their passions—without turning these interests into lesson plans. This approach allows the learner's questions to set the direction of learning, rather than adults imposing topics or focus areas. Unschoolers also welcome the idea of multiple answers to questions, fostering exploration and critical thinking.

Why Choose Unschooling Over Traditional Homeschooling?

Let’s face it, unschoolers do things differently. They skip the idea of grade levels, rigid learning paths, and pre-made schedules altogether. Instead, kids lead the way with their curiosity and interests, making learning flexible and totally tailored to them.

So, while a homeschooler might be learning multiplication in 4th grade and reading about Ancient Egypt in 6th, an unschooler might be totally immersed in volcanos one day and dinosaurs the next. And they may not have a need for multiplication until much later. But it's all okay! The idea of learning in “grade levels” simply doesn’t apply in unschooling. Kids learn what interests them, when it interests them, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s supposed to happen in what the school system calls 4th grade or 9th grade. Unschooling parents have seen that this natural, interest-driven way of learning makes more sense than forcing a one-size-fits-all approach based on age or a curriculum’s timeline.

Why Unschooling Might Be Perfect for Your Family

Unschooling isn’t for everyone, but many families find it to be an incredible way to learn. Here’s why it might be the perfect fit for you:

Encourages a Love of Learning

Since unschooling is driven by the child’s interests, they’re naturally more engaged and excited to learn. This approach fosters a love for learning that can last a lifetime. In the words of Hobbes, from the Calvin and Hobbes comic, "If nobody makes you do it, it counts as fun."

Individualized, Real-World Learning

Unschooling is all about learning through real-life experiences. Your child might pick up math skills by budgeting their allowance or learn about science by experimenting with different types of plants. It’s practical learning that they can actually apply to their daily life.

Curiosity-Inspired Exploration

Children are encouraged to ask questions and seek answers, driving their own educational journey.

Freedom from grade levels

Learning doesn’t need to follow a predetermined timeline or sequence. Each child can learn at their own pace, in their own way.

Strong Family Connections

Unschooling encourages families to spend lots of time together, exploring the world and learning side-by-side. This often leads to joyful interactions, strong bonds, and deeper relationships with your kids.

Want to Learn More? Check Out the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference!

If you’re curious about unschooling and want to learn more, the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference is an awesome way to dive deeper into the unschooling world. This conference is all about connecting with other unschooling families, getting practical advice, and finding inspiration from seasoned unschoolers. Whether you’re just starting out or have been unschooling for years, it’s a great place to get support and connect with your unschooling community. Register now and get in on the fun!

Top 10 Reasons to Attend an Unschooling Conference

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 18:14:24 GMT

Thinking about attending an unschooling conference but aren’t sure what to expect? Imagine a place where you can experience an unschooling community firsthand. A place where you can ask questions, get ideas from experienced unschoolers, and be surrounded by free families who respect and enjoy their kids. That’s what unschooling conferences are all about!

Here are my top 10 reasons why you should attend an unschooling conference and how it can enhance your unschooling journey.

1. It’s Refreshing: Reconnect with Your Unschooling Community

There’s something incredibly energizing about spending time with hundreds of fellow unschoolers. You’ll feel a sense of belonging as you engage with families who respect and cherish their children for who they are. Being in a community of like-minded individuals will help you breathe easier and reaffirm your unschooling choices.

2. A Fun-Filled Weekend for Everyone

An unschooling conference isn’t just about learning; it’s about having fun, too! Whether you’re chatting with other unschooling families, watching kids play board games, Minecraft, or Lego, or enjoying the hotel’s pool, there’s always something for everyone. Kids and adults alike will find activities that fuel their passions and create lasting memories.

3. Engaging Discussions and Panels on Unschooling

One of the best parts of an unschooling conference is the chance to dive deep into discussions and attend panels. You’ll have access to experienced unschoolers who are excited to share their knowledge. Whether you're new to unschooling or facing specific challenges, these sessions will equip you with valuable insights and practical advice.

4. Inspiring Presentations from Experienced Unschoolers

Prepare to be moved by powerful, heartfelt presentations from unschooling advocates. These speakers share personal stories of their unschooling experiences, offering you a mix of laughter, inspiration, and valuable lessons. You’ll leave with a renewed sense of purpose and a deeper connection to your unschooling path.

5. A Welcoming Space for Kids and Teens

Unschooling conferences go beyond adult discussions and embrace children of all ages. From toddlers to teens, kids have plenty of opportunities to explore, learn, and socialize. Teens especially benefit from spaces that allow them to connect with others who share their interests in a respectful, fun environment.

6. Build a Supportive Unschooling Community

Attending an unschooling conference helps you find your community. You’ll connect with other families who share your values, struggles, and joys, offering mutual support throughout your unschooling journey. Strong connections formed at conferences can become lasting friendships and a vital resource in your homeschooling experience.

7. Special Family Events for Unforgettable Memories

Unschooling conferences offer a variety of special events designed to bring families together. Whether it’s a fun-filled picnic, all-ages talent show, or even a prom designed for both parents and kids, these experiences will create lifelong memories and help you bond with your unschooling community.

8. Recharge Your Unschooling Batteries

We all need a break from the daily routine. An unschooling conference provides an opportunity to relax and recharge with your family. Whether you’re attending funshops, socializing with friends, or simply taking time to reflect, conferences give you the space to refresh your perspective and return home energized.

9. Form New Friendships for Everyone

Both parents and kids will leave with a renewed sense of connection and a new circle of friends. The friendships made at an unschooling conference can provide emotional support, advice, and a network to turn to as you continue your unschooling journey. These connections are invaluable in building a long-term support system.

10. Find Inspiration and Support at Every Stage of Unschooling

Whether you’re just starting your unschooling journey or have years of experience, you’ll find inspiration and support at an unschooling conference. Share your experiences, listen to others, and gain motivation to continue on your unique educational path. You’ll leave feeling inspired to keep pursuing unschooling with renewed energy and enthusiasm.

Ready to Experience an Unschooling Conference for Yourself?

Don’t miss out on the chance to connect, learn, and grow with other unschooling families at the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference ! This event is designed to inspire, challenge, and rejuvenate your unschooling journey. Register today and join us for an unforgettable weekend filled with connection, learning, and fun!

Unschooling in Oregon: A Thriving Community for Self-Directed Learning

Sat, 08 Mar 2025 23:55:08 GMT

Oregon has long been known for its progressive approach to education, and for families interested in unschooling, it offers a welcoming and supportive environment. Unschooling—a form of self-directed, interest-led learning—has gained popularity as more parents seek alternatives to traditional schooling. With flexible homeschooling laws, a vibrant community, and unique learning opportunities, Oregon is an ideal place for unschooling families to thrive.

Understanding Unschooling

Unschooling is based on the idea that children learn naturally and that learning is a lifelong process. Unschooling encourages children to learn through life experiences, curiosity, and exploration rather than following a predetermined curriculum. Instead of structured lessons, unschooled children engage in learning through play, hobbies, social interactions, and real-world experiences. This approach fosters critical thinking, creativity, strong family connection, and a lifelong love of learning. Unlike traditional homeschooling, which often follows structured lesson plans, unschooling allows learning to happen as children pursue their interests and passions. Parents act as facilitators rather than instructors, providing resources, opportunities, and encouragement.

Oregon's Homeschooling Laws and How They Support Unschooling

Oregon is one of the more flexible states when it comes to homeschooling regulations, making it easier for families to practice unschooling. The key requirements for homeschooling in Oregon include:

Notification:

Parents must submit a one-time Notice of Intent (NOI) to homeschool with their local Education Service District (ESD) when their child turns six or is withdrawn from school.

Testing:

Standardized testing is required in grades 3, 5, 8, and 10. However, unschooling families can take a relaxed approach, using the tests as a benchmark rather than a rigid assessment.

No Curriculum Mandates:

The state does not require a specific curriculum, allowing families to embrace unschooling fully.

This regulatory flexibility gives Oregon families the freedom to tailor education to their children's unique learning styles, making unschooling a viable and fulfilling option.

The Unschooling Community in Oregon

One of the biggest advantages of unschooling in Oregon is the strong and supportive community. Families can connect through homeschooling co-ops, online forums, and local meetups. Some of the best resources for unschooling families include:

LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference (Vancouver, WA)

A premier gathering for unschooling families in the Pacific Northwest, this event brings together parents, kids, and unschooling mentors to share insights, build connections, and celebrate Learning In Freedom Everyday (LIFE!).

Oregon Home Education Network (OHEN)

A nonprofit organization supporting homeschoolers and unschoolers with resources, advocacy, and community events.

Local Learning Pods & Co-ops

Many unschooling families form small learning groups where kids can collaborate, explore, and engage in hands-on activities together.

Facebook & Online Groups

Oregon has several active social media groups where unschoolers can share ideas, organize field trips, and support each other.

Unique Learning Opportunities in Oregon

Oregon’s diverse landscapes and rich cultural offerings provide endless learning opportunities for unschooling families. Whether exploring the outdoors, engaging in hands-on science, or immersing in the arts, children can learn in a way that is meaningful and engaging. Some of the amazing learning experiences in Oregon include:

Oregon Museum of Science and Industry (OMSI) – A fantastic resource for STEM-based exploration with interactive exhibits, planetarium shows, and hands-on science labs.
Outdoor Learning Adventures – From hiking in the Columbia River Gorge to exploring tide pools along the Oregon Coast, nature provides a wealth of opportunities for curiosity-driven learning.
Portland Art Museum & Local Theaters – A great place for unschoolers to immerse themselves in art, history, and cultural events.
Farms and Sustainability Education – Many farms offer educational programs where kids can learn about agriculture, sustainability, and animal care firsthand.

Attending the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference

For families new to unschooling or looking for deeper connections, attending the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference in Vancouver, WA, is a must. This annual event provides a space for unschooling families to gather, share experiences, and gain inspiration from seasoned unschoolers. The conference offers presentations, discussions, funshops, group activities, and plenty of fun for kids and parents alike. Whether you're just beginning your unschooling journey or have been unschooling for years, this conference is a fantastic opportunity to learn, connect, and celebrate the freedom of self-directed learning.

Embracing the Unschooling Lifestyle

Unschooling in Oregon is more than just an educational choice—it’s a lifestyle that encourages curiosity, exploration, and growth. With supportive homeschooling laws, an engaged community, and a wealth of learning experiences, Oregon provides an ideal environment for self-directed learners to flourish.

If you're considering unschooling, attending events like the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference can help you gain insight, meet like-minded families, and discover the many possibilities that unschooling offers. Embrace the journey, and watch your child’s love for learning unfold in ways you never imagined.

How to Find Your Unschooling Community

Sat, 08 Mar 2025 23:28:11 GMT

Are you on the hunt for an unschooling community? Many of us thrive when we have a supportive group of like-minded people to connect with. Whether you're looking for an existing community or considering starting your own, there are plenty of ways to find the perfect fit for you and your family. Let’s explore a few tips to help you along the way!

The Ever-Changing Nature of Unschooling Communities

One thing that can make finding an unschooling community a bit tricky is that these groups often change and evolve. In some places, there are thriving unschooling networks that hold regular meetups, while other areas might require a little more effort to connect with others. As children grow, their interests change, and family needs shift, meaning that unschooling communities are always evolving. If one group dissolves, it’s likely that another will pop up to meet the needs of a new set of families. This flexibility and adaptability make unschooling communities unique and organic.

Finding Support Communities

Unschooling support communities come in all shapes and sizes. Some are local, with in-person meetups, while others are online, making it easier to connect with families no matter where you live. Here are a few places to start:

Online Communities: In recent years, online unschooling groups have exploded in popularity. Platforms like Facebook and Instagram have dedicated groups where unschooling families can connect, share experiences, and get advice from others in the same boat.
Local Groups: Finding local unschooling groups can be a bit more challenging, but they are out there! The best time to search is in the fall when families are setting their routines for the year and planning activities. You can check online directories, homeschooling forums, or even community centers to find groups in your area. Even if a group isn’t exclusively unschooling, many eclectic homeschooling groups include families with a variety of educational approaches.
Unschooling-Friendly Conferences: Attending an unschooling-friendly conference is one of the best ways to find support and build lasting connections. These gatherings bring together families who embrace self-directed learning and offer an excellent opportunity to meet like-minded people, exchange ideas, and make friends.

LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference: Your Unschooling Community Awaits

A great way to connect with other unschooling families is by attending the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference. It's a fantastic place to meet families who share your love for self-directed learning and will provide an opportunity for both parents and kids to form meaningful relationships. At LIFE is Good, you’ll find:

Engaging discussions and presentations led by experienced unschoolers and mentors.
A welcoming space where kids and teens can meet new friends who share their lifestyle.
Community-building activities that help families connect in meaningful ways.
Inspiration and support from families at all stages of the unschooling journey.

If you're having trouble finding a local unschooling community, attending LIFE is Good could be the perfect way to immerse yourself in a supportive and encouraging environment. You’ll leave with new friendships and a renewed sense of connection to the unschooling world.

Register for the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference today and join us for an unforgettable experience filled with connection, learning, and fun!

Creating Your Own Unschooling Community

Can’t find a local community that fits? No worries—you can always create your own! Starting an unschooling group doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Even small, simple gatherings can be just as impactful as larger, more structured groups. Here’s how to get started:

Steps to Building Your Unschooling Community:

Start Small – Organize casual get-togethers, like a park day, hike, or game night. A monthly meetup can be a low-pressure way to bring families together and build connections.
Plan Activities Your Kids Love – Choose activities that your children enjoy, so everyone will have fun—even if the group is small. Focus on what makes your kids excited and let the connection flow naturally.
Use Social Media – Post in local homeschooling or parenting groups to find others who might be looking for the same kind of community. Don’t forget to check out the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference Facebook group , where you can connect with other families attending the conference.
Explore Community Resources – Local libraries, nature centers, and community centers might offer space for meetups or group activities. Reach out to these places to see if they can help support your gatherings.
Stay Flexible – Communities ebb and flow, and it’s okay if some meetups don’t take off as expected. Be open to adjusting based on what works best for your family and others involved.

Tips for Successful Unschooling Community Meetups

Pick the Right Day – Fridays tend to work well for many families, while Mondays can be difficult.
Keep Communication Clear – Use a Facebook group, email list, or even flyers to keep everyone informed about upcoming meetups and activities.
Encourage Shared Leadership – Let different families take turns organizing events to keep things fresh and inclusive.

You Can Create the Unschooling Community You Need

Building a community might seem a bit intimidating, especially if you’re more of an introvert. But if your child is craving connection, taking that first step can be so rewarding. Start small, and see where it leads. There’s no right or wrong way to build an unschooling community—just find what works for you and your family.

And if you're looking for an amazing place to start, don’t miss out on the LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference. Register today and connect with families who truly get it!

We can’t wait to see you there!

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2017 — Embassy Suites Tigard: Finding Our Footing Again

2018 — Embassy Suites Tigard, Year Two: Growing Into the Space

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2015: A Community in Full Bloom

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The years we grew up together at the Quay

2008: The year everything got bigger

2009: The year we found our voice… and set off a few fire alarms

But oh, the fire alarms.

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2011: Full bloom at the Quay

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Thirteen Frequently Asked Questions About Unschooling

A Parent’s Perspective on Unschooling in Real Life

1. How will my kids learn anything if I don’t teach them?

2. I’m ready to try unschooling, but my spouse/partner isn’t convinced. What do I do?

3. How do we start?

4. What is deschooling?

5. What do I tell the school district?

6. That’s fine for elementary school, but what about high school?

7. Can unschoolers get into college?

8. What about socialization?

9. Will my child fall flat, or fall short, if I don’t push/encourage/expect?

10. How will my kids learn self-discipline?

11. I’m okay with unschooling for academics, but the radical unschooling lifestyle seems like too much!

How do I relax about _______? (food choices, hygiene, appearance, chores, manners, time spent indoors/outdoors, time spent on TV/computers/video games, reading, etc. etc. etc.)

12. I’ve heard unschooling described as “unparenting.” Do you neglect your kids?

13. What if we decide to unschool and it ruins our kids’ lives?

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LIFE is Good 2008: The Year We Grew Up

A Gentle Shift Into Something Bigger

Who Showed Up in 2008

Programming That Reflected Our Evolution

Presentations

Circle Chats

Funshops

New 2008 Highlights and Traditions

The Sunday Night Concert

The Games Room

The Computer Gaming Room

The Fairy Godparent Game

The Vendor Hallway and the UN-Fair

2008 was the year the UNtrepreneurial Fair was born.

The Year I Learned I Needed a Team

Looking Back

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LIFE is Good 2007: How a One Time Gathering Became a Beloved Unschooling Tradition

Carrying Forward the Spirit of What Came Before

A Small Conference With a Big Heart

The Moment Everything Changed

Honoring the Past, Growing Into the Future

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One Last Hurrah: A Farewell and an Invitation

Enjoying Your LIFE is Good Unschooling Conference Experience

1. Pace Yourself—Say Goodbye to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out!)

2. Take Time to Recharge

3. Prepare Your Kids for What to Expect

4. Navigate Raffle and Auction Excitement with Care

5. Prioritize Your Family’s Needs

6. Bring Comforts from Home

7. Reach Out for Support

A Community Built Around You

Ready to Join the Adventure?

Unschooling vs Homeschooling: What’s the Difference?

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